Science of Trust

Emotional Attunement for Couples
CD - unabridged
Audio (14 discs)
Product Number: BN1092
Released: Apr 01, 2012
Business Term: Purchase
ISBN: #9781455871827
Narrator/s: J. Charles
Publisher: Brilliance Audio
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For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman's research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called "emotional attunement," which describes a couple's ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect each other, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers a detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

Author(s): John M. Gottman
Genre: Poetry

Professional reviews

"This lengthy collection of what science tells us about happy and unhappy couples is full of psychological abstractions, but narrator J. Charles delivers it with fresh vocal energy that makes it sound like kitchen-table conversation. With appealing jauntiness and spontaneity, he gives the analytical author's thinking irresistible personality that keeps listeners engaged. Dr. Gottman writes with clarity and charm. His fascinating research shows how emotional attunement and trust are the glue that helps couples work through conflicts and not overreact to them. Though it's more science than inspiration or instruction, it's eloquent confirmation that only trust can allow couples to feel safe and secure, to permit vulnerability, and to create a space where attraction can ripen into the mutual responsibility of building a life together. T.W. (c) AudioFile 2013, Portland, Maine"

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